REALITY CHECK ---- THE REAPER

For death is but a passing phase of Life;

A change of dress, a disrobing;

A birth into the unborn again;

A commencing where we ended;

A starting where we stopped to rest;

A crossroad of Eternity;

A giving up of something, to possess all things.

The end of the unreal, the beginning of the real.

EDWIN LEIBFREED, "The Song of the Soul"

“Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit,

 every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows".

There is a time to be born and a time to die, just as Ecclesiastes said in his 3rd chapter in the holy bible and the characteristics of human beings "MR NIGER D " as we were taught in school, every living thing must die.

Those who think about death, carrying with them their existing ideas and emotions, usually assume that they will have, during their last hours, ideas and emotions of like vividness ... but they do not fully recognize the implication that the feeling faculty, too, is almost gone. The imagine the state to be one in which they can have emotions such as they now have on contemplating the cessation of life. But at the last all the mental powers simultaneously ebb, as do the bodily powers, and with them goes the capacity for emotion in general. It is, indeed, possible that in its last stages consciousness is occupied by a not displeasurable sense of rest.

It seems a strange and repugnant conclusion that with the cessation of consciousness at death, there ceases to be any knowledge of having existed. With his last breath it becomes to each the same thing as though he had never lived. And then the consciousness itself -- what is it during the time that it continues? And what becomes of it when it ends? We can only infer that it is a specialized and individualized form of that Infinite and Eternal Energy which transcends both our knowledge and our imagination; and that at death its elements lapse into the Infinite and Eternal Energy whence they were derived.

Death, is the reality we all run away from, it is inevitable and does not need to give a notice. What we do with our lives however is important. "live, love and learn" like my friend says "Ayanyinka Ayanlowo AKA Ayanyanks" Enjoy each moment and cherish them like treasures because you only have one life to live. Smile all you want, laugh all you can, do all the things that make you happy. The impact you have on the lives around you are but memories and they always linger. 

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.Have the courage to live, anyone can die. Though difficult, try not to sleep with pain, hate and disdain in your heart. Dont hesitate to show love to everyone around you, tell your friends and family how much you appreciate them because they need to know. it is painful if you loved someone dearly and you never got the chance to tell them when they were alive. I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday evening and he said "you better appreciate me now that i am alive o" i thought deeply and said to myself "this is the truth and reality"  

Finally, it is important to understand what grief is all about, and how to grief without hurting other people in the process. Grief is an important part of life just like death is. Grief is hard, it can be broken down into different stages and phases, the shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, reflection and loneliness, the up-ward turn, reconstruction and working through and finally, acceptance and hope. 

Have a blessed day......